Why harnessing the power of Role Theory is so important

We relate to others through the role we play. These roles - what we do in a specific moment - define who we are and who we are becoming in that moment. This is our behaviour; it doesn't define our intent or who we are internally, but it does define our actions.

Part of our journey is to close the gap between our intent - the person we’d like to be - and our actions - who we are in the moment.

Constructive Roles (C)

A Constructive role grows you as a person

E.g. Calm Explainer/Clear Boundary Setter/Focused Confronter

Fragmenting Roles (F)

A Fragmenting role diminishes and weakens you as a person

E.g. Angry Withdrawer/Righteous Punisher

Ambivalent Roles (A)

An Ambivalent role drains energy; a combination of a constructive and fragmenting role

E.g. Resentful Carer

[quote]People judge others for their actions, but judge themselves for their intentions - Dr Carlos[/quote]


The Active Roles we play are our present and immediate reality. We can analyse the past and be happy, worried or regretful about it - but we cannot change it, it has already passed. Likewise, we can have the best creative vision of our future, seeing it with great hope or we can experience great anxiety about it - but it’s not here yet.

Our identity is built on how we respond in the present moment. That includes our relationships, our environment, internal emotions, hopes and fears, and general wellbeing.

Playing more appropriate active roles will decrease anxiety, and so let us enjoy a more relaxed life.

Who doesn’t want that?